FireMan recently informed me that yet another of his coworkers has separated from his wife. I did the math.
Ten percent of his coworkers have separated or divorced within the past year.
Then I realized that not all of them were married to begin with. If you take out those already single (never married, already divorced, or widowed), then twenty percent of his married coworkers have separated or divorced within the past year.
And of course ya'll know we've had our own problems this year (things have been going well lately, thank you for asking).
And of course there're the two firefighters who are (fairly openly) cheating on their wives.
I find this high number of marital problems in one workplace scary. And troubling.
The fact that there are so many occurring, tells me that there's a high likelihood that it's something within the culture that has been created amongst themselves.
I have asked FireMan to keep his eyes open, to be vigilant, to be on guard against such things. I have asked him that if he can identify what the problem might be, that he build walls against it, and flee from it when it appears.
I don't know what it might be. They don't all work with one another, not in the same station or on the same shift. Most of them don't hang out together very much after work.
But it seems to me that there has to be something going on. Perhaps a way of thinking that needs to be changed, as opposed to any one action.
It's interesting, because when I brought up our marital issues to my therapist, she at one point had mentioned that it might be a long road ahead, because it seemed like I wasn't just fighting for one man, I was fighting the culture he's surrounded by.
I knew then she was probably right, but wow! I didn't see this coming.
Twenty percent. Within the past year. I can't get over that. It's just huge.